Honestly... He’s Not That Bad
It happens. You meet that person for the first time and they’ve given you the most awful first impression ever. The look on their face, the body language, the whole conversation was a disaster. Your friend turns to you and asks what you thought of Joe. Honestly what can you say? He’s not your type of person and frankly you wouldn’t be hurt if you didn’t spend another minute around him. But, you kind of just smile and say you don’t think he’s your type of person. Your friend quickly replies, honestly… he’s not that bad, why don’t you give him another chance? You should invite him and his wife to your holiday party next Friday. So, you trust your friend and you give Joe a second chance.
It’s a common battle we face, looking for the good in others. Joe didn’t seem like the perfect person at the time, but that next Friday when the party rolled around, he was completely different. Sometimes we forget that people have things going on in their lives, they have distractions, stressful days, and sometimes they just aren’t themselves. That Friday night, you meet a whole new Joe. He’s outgoing, loves fishing just like you do and he and his wife own a vineyard you’ve been dying to see. You actually have a lot more in common. But, the sad part is, you would’ve never met Joe if your friend didn’t tell you to give him that second chance.
It’s hard. We often meet people we don’t really find interest in or something in common. We want to find the good in them, but sometimes it doesn’t seem possible. Whether it’s their attitude, negativity, appearance, something tells us to stay away from them. But, sometimes that’s just the easy way out. You should always learn about the person before you judge them on their first impression. Sometimes people have bad days, but sometimes people also aren’t good at first impressions and interactions with people they don’t know. You will never know someone until you give them the chance to truly open up and show their true colours.
Looking for the good in others isn’t always that easy. “Why should you give them a chance?” you ask yourself. Why do you owe it to them? Well, you don’t owe it to them. But, you do owe it to yourself. If you could look beyond what is stopping you from building that relationship and find the good in the other people, you give yourself the opportunity to grow. You will grow as a person, you will grow your relationships and more importantly, you will grow your opportunities in life. Everyone always has a ‘bad’ side, or something we don’t like about them, but, you can choose to be different and look beyond those bad things. For once, you can choose to find the good in everyone and truly enjoy the relationships life throws your way.
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